You make some truly outstanding points. Lying, for example, to protect a vulnerable person or group of persons is a completely different situation. And there is a place and a time for the upbeat approach. I have had some experience with grief and pain up close and personal and here is what I would say: if you’re really able to be right there in the present and you are aware of some things about which to feel grateful (or even one thing) then you can truly be there for another person. And you can help with the grief just by touching a shoulder or sitting with the person. About the positive attitude…here is a little tip I can give to others: It sometimes takes some hard work. But point taken and fully appreciated.